Blog Archives
The stages of relationships
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. There are four basic stages that relationships can pass through as they progress. Many relationships end because they get stuck at one of these … Continue reading
Seeing humor in the darkness
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. Early in my life I spent some time doing stand-up comedy. I was adequate at best, and soon decided that I was better suited … Continue reading
To be or not to be
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. It is illegal in most of America to kill your self. It is even more illegal to help someone else kill themselves. However, it … Continue reading
The evolution of relationships
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. We live in a time when the pace of change is accelerating. Evolution itself is occurring with unprecedented speed. Human Beings have existed in … Continue reading
Warning: Bad relationship ahead
While nobody wants to have a negative romantic relationship, it seems that at some time most of us do. In the end, all relationships can be seen as learning experiences, but there are ways to limit the number and severity … Continue reading
The ecology of marriage
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. A marriage is an eco-system, and like any eco-system it must be maintained in order to assure the health of those living within. Allow things … Continue reading
Relationship choice points
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. Everyday, within our relationships, we come to choice points. These are the moments when the actions we take will determine the direction of the … Continue reading
Relating to dating
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. I have not had a first date in almost twenty years. This does not mean that I have forgotten the particular excitement and agony that … Continue reading
Relating with integrity
Editor’s note: This is one in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low’s archives. People often ask me what I consider the most important element to success in relationships. Co-operation? Communication? Intimacy? Friendship? All of these are important, … Continue reading
We are all the same differently
Editor’s note: This is the third in a series of “Best Of” columns from Jeff Low. We are descended from pack animals, and even as modern humans we retain a powerful underlying desire to fit in with the rest of … Continue reading

Dr. Jeffrey Low has been a therapist since 1978. He currently works with individual and couples in Sonoma, California. You can contact him, ask questions, and find out more about his work, at